How many times have you promised yourself to change a habit, to get out and go for a run, or to stand up for your health and make the healthy choice, but then intentionally make the decision to do the opposite. Why is this? What is it in our minds and our bodies that tells us to ‘do it anyway’. I am over it.
Self sabotage. We have all done it. I am particularly good at it, my close friends will vouch for me on that. My self sabotage is kind of in reverse to most. I have been told many times to cool it with the exercise. My hormones are so out of whack from over exercising and a lack of body fat, that if I am to get things back on track in order to have beautiful babies, then by christ, I need to cool it with the movement. But, time and time again, I will go for a run. Just a quick jaunt up Mount Iron – it's only a half an hour run right, how bad can it be for me? Or my daily habit of hitting the gym every morning for a high intensity session – it's habit. Trying to break that habit is hard. Be it to stop the exercise, or to start, we are all responsible for a little self-sabotage in our lives.
Is it the fear of change, or the fear of missing out (aka FOMO)? Maybe both. I know, deep down what is the right thing to do, we all do actually. But we do the opposite anyway!
Can some one please tell me why?!
Well, this has lead me down an interesting path. I want to know more about what causes this self-sabotage reaction. Is it physical, mental, emotional? I have real nerd factor when it comes to understanding the psychology of the mind and body – how it affects our desire to move (or not) to what we eat and why, to how we treat others in our lives, to how we expect to be treated in return. Heck knows it’s been damn hard for my husband watching me step out the door for a run when I know and he knows I should be cooling it. But again, I do it anyway. And yes, I feel guilty afterwards. Sound familiar (yes I am pointing to you with the crumbs of chocolate cake stuck in between your teeth).
I have been looking into this.
It goes beyond food and feelings, it actually comes back to our genetics. Our ancestors lived in a place where every day, when they stepped out the cave door, they put their lives at risk. You might get chased by a tiger, trampled by a woolly mammoth, or poisoned by a plant you thought was ok to eat. At the mercy of their environment, our ancestors DNA has was designed to teach them one crucial lesson – stay safe. Why else do you think we conform to the social norm - better do what everyone else is doing as why would they all be doing it if it wasn’t right. We better stay in our comfort zone – if we all stick with our current habits, day in day out, we will survive. We care so much about what others think – if we mess with our tribe we risk isolation and bing kicked out into the wild – can have that, we might die.
It comes down to change. Our brains and our genes pretty much tell us that change is bad. When we change, the future becomes unknown and that totally freaks out our simple minds. How can we survive it we don’t know what is coming. Unfortunately we would rather become weak or deteriorate than face change and uncertainly.
Yip – can relate. This might sound ridiculous to you – but the fear of change is exactly what’s going on in my head. How will I feel if I am not as fit as I am now, how will my friends feel about hanging out with me if a gain 10kg (I know get new friends if this is an issue!), and how will I feel about myself? Will I slip into a deep state of depression if I cant run!? Well – let’s just say it’s been 3 months since my last run and I feel pretty good.
So how about you? How does this fear of change affect you? Are you scared of not fitting in? Even though you know that the benefits will be positive? Is this fear holding you back? Think about this for a moment – and consider it in all areas of your life.
It’s time to FIT OUT rather than fit in people. Society as we know it today is heading down a very steep slope to chronic illness.
Fitting in is killing us.
Eating what we have for years been told is good for us, avoiding in life what we have been told is bad for us, daily 9-5 work and stress, running instead of walking, sitting all day at work, lack of sleep and too much TV, the desire for the perfect body. Seriously I could go on!
It’s time to consciously take responsibility for your life. Overcome your ego, ask more questions and get educated about what is right for you. Take a stand for your health and FIT OUT.
It’s been a journey for me, and making changes has been bloody hard. But I have set my goals, and I am not going to let anyone else get in the way, even myself.